Monday, November 24, 2014

Sweaters and Gratitude

When I am finally forced to admit
that summer is gone for good—
and often not until mid November—
I sometimes do what seems a bit odd.
I defiantly refuse to dress for the cold.
Somehow this makes me feel still in control.
So I'll throw on a sweater and go off into the day,
arms wrapped around myself, totally uncomfortable,
but telling that day it cannot dictate how I dress.
I am dressing for the day I want it to be.

This has not been an unconscious decision.
I know I do this and I know it is, 
well, kind of dumb.
But the principle behind it is not:
Defiantly declaring our circumstances do not 
have to define the way we respond to them.

That is the principle behind Thanksgiving.
Everything around us indicates that
beauty has died back.
Leaves have all fallen and the rain has set in.
People may have experienced a year
marked by loss and pain.
A long winter season is ahead of us and,
 those can be challenging months.
But instead of agreeing with all that,
we sit around tables and give thanks--
thanks for what we have and for who we have.
Thanksgiving is a symbolic day of declaration:
we are grateful regardless of our circumstances.
Sitting around the table being thankful
is a wonderfully defiant act.
The new “pre-black Friday” trend
is so the opposite of that spirit.
We leave our place of thanksgiving for
what we have in search of what we want.
We step out of acknowledging that our needs
have been satisfied to declaring that 
our wants are found wanting.

Many say this trend is an attack on the family.
But even more it is an attack on gratitude,
on contentment, on peace.
And no amount of “pre-black Friday” savings
is worth compromising those.
Staying "seated" for an entire day
of Thanksgiving is such a good idea.

So I may occasionally choose a sweater 
because a cold day cannot dictate my dress.
But more than that, I choose gratitude
as a reminder that my circumstances 
cannot dictate my response.
Sweaters and gratitude.
Happy Thanksgiving...

1 comment:

  1. love this. "Staying seated" so very important and true. thanks Kathy~